Change is the only constant in life and it's a good thing because, with change, we can improve. Change is actually a promise. It doesn't matter how small you feel, how defeated you think you are, and how incompetent, ugly, and desperate things may be to you. With change, you can turn things around. That's what's so awesome about change.
I once met a homeless man on the streets of San Francisco and Los Angeles and I was working for an insurance company and he said something that really blew my mind. It changed my life. He was a guy who just had newspapers as his bed.
Certain people believe they don't deserve good things to happen to them? I know it sounds crazy. I mean who in their right minds would assume that they don't deserve the good things in life.
What kind of cancerous or toxic mental ideas are they suffering from for them to think this way? Believe it or not, this is not rare. Too many people sabotage themselves from achieving success because they believe they do not deserve success.
One common variation of this is thinking all your future success will be beyond your grasp since you screwed up royally in the past. It's just not going to happen. Forget about it. They believe in stigma.
They believe there are certain things you cannot do. If you do it in the past, you're sealed from any kind of success. You are a failure and you will continue to be a failure.
Now, they don't explicitly think about it in these terms but the effect is the same. They can't bring themselves to do something needed and to sacrifice something required for them to achieve great success in life.
Another variation of this is the Impostor Complex. This complex afflicts people who accomplished many things. They know how to write best-selling books. They know how to speak in front of large audiences. They know how to connect with people.
They know how to do the right things at the right time with the right people to produce the very best results. But deep down inside they feel they are impostors, frauds, fakes, hypocrites, or liars. They call this Impostor Complex, and it's real.
In fact, you only know less than Oprah Winfrey, herself who reported that she suffered from Impostor Complex. Deep down inside, it goes back to the same place. It goes to this burning idea of not deserving success.
For example, if you want to be a successful online entrepreneur selling stuff online, you may be good at promotions, marketing, product selection, web design or affiliate marketing.
There are so many moving parts but chances are you probably will only be good at one thing or two things if you're lucky. What do you do with the rest of the picture? Do you try to do a half-assed job with the rest of the pieces?
Your success is the sum of its parts and more. If you have only two good parts and the rest is junk, what do you think will happen? Successful people focus on their core competency. They focus on what they're good at.
These are the linchpins of their success. For everything else, they ask for help. Help can come in many forms. You can delegate. You can outsource. You can collaborate. You can put up things for discussion and brainstorming and then come up with implementations.
There's really not much change in your life. Before you know it, you feel that you're stuck in your life. It's as if the script keeps playing over and over. It's the same boring old movie again and again. Same movie, different day and then, comes the conclusion. Death.
I know it sounds depressing. It's definitely discouraging but I want you to understand where that mindset leads to. It definitely doesn't lead to a happy place. If there was any doubt before, now you have the answer.
People who screw up in the past think it seals the rest of their life. Your past mistakes don't have to define you.
Pay attention to your mental inventory because until and unless you believe you can change, nothing will happen in your life. This is a powerful form of this. This is the most important ingredient in the process of changing your results because you're trying to become more successful.
This is a simple matter of changing your results. Obviously, you're not happy with the results you're getting. You want to be more successful but don't automatically assume that you can change.
Embrace this possibility. Recognize its full features. Stare it in the eyes and let it in. Absorb it. Most people don't go through this. They automatically assume that they can change.