2. Identify What You're Good At
Your self-esteem will grow when you demonstrate real abilities and achievements in areas of your life that matter to you. You need to figure out just what your core skills and talents are. Then get advice and help from people who can help you to find opportunities that will emphasize those skills. Remember that practice does not necessarily make perfect, but it does make habits permanent. So, be sure to find people who can help you grow and become better at those talents and then practice how to do them well.
3. Learn to Accept Compliments
When we feel bad about ourselves, it can be hard for anywhere else to drag us out. During these times, we tend to be more resistant to compliments. Rather than shrugging off compliments as lies, you should try to set the goal of tolerating compliments when you receive them. This is important to do, even if it feels uncomfortable because it will be worth it in the long run.
4. Stop Criticizing Yourself
We are more likely to kick ourselves when we are down. When we have low self-esteem, we tend to do even more damage to it by being self-critical. When you start to tell yourself all the things that you are doing wrong and criticizing yourself for who you are, think twice about what you are saying. By taking a few minutes to recognize the self-criticism, you will give yourself the ability to start building yourself up instead.
5. Remind Yourself of Your Real Worth
Reminding yourself of your real worth is the best way to revive low self-esteem when your confidence sustains a blow. If you fail to get a promotion at work, write down everything that makes you a valuable employee, such as being reliable. Write a short paragraph or two about why each quality is essential and why others will appreciate it.
Building your self-esteem isn't going to be an easy task, and it requires a lot of hard work, but the return you get will be invaluable if you do it correctly.
Herb Sennett writes about life and how to enjoy it more.