What do you do daily to ensure that you’re living life to its fullest? If you're struggling to think of anything, that's okay, you're not alone. Here's the thing – you are not going to enjoy every minute of every day, terrible things may happen such as a car accident, a fall, illness, financial struggles, or the loss of a loved one. But these things are just part of life.
I was driving my 14-year-old grandson to his tutoring classes on Saturday morning. Traffic was light. I consider myself a careful driver. Unfortunately, on this day a person decided to drive through a red left turn signal and pulled in front of me. There was no way to avoid the impending accident. So, I quickly swerved to the right and was able to cause the cars to collide side-to-side. Now my grandson would be late for his study time. Me? I had to face the whole accident investigation business. I called my wife who arrived quickly and made sure that the morning was not a total loss for our young student. In the meantime, the officer allowed me to drive my car home rather than having it towed.
Answer: Get back up and learn from it.
We tend to think of failure as something shameful, undesirable. Understandably, failing to achieve it often cause negative feelings, no matter how big or small the goal was.
And the only way to overcome those feelings is by changing the way we understand failure. It’s important to realize that failure is part of the process of success because it leaves valuable lessons if we know how to learn from it.
Three ways to redefine failure and learn from it effectively.
1. Don't be afraid to make mistakes - Learning from your mistakes is about more than just thinking about what went wrong. The first step towards using failure as a tool for success is to stop seeing mistakes as shameful.
I agree that most of today’s unhappiness centers on important people in our lives not cooperating with us. Can anyone relate to that? Have you ever had a child who makes a decision that puts them in serious danger? Have you ever had a significant other decide to relocate or make an employment decision with which you were not in agreement? Did one of your parents ever say something critical to you that rocked your confidence? Ever had a supervisor who micromanaged your work and never gave credit for your good work performance? I think you get the idea. Any one or combination of these things can be a source of unhappiness for us and I’m sure you can add several others to the list.
Tending to your happiness does not need to be difficult, complex, or time-consuming. It can be as simple as this four-step formula:
Here are some helpful ideas to help you do just that.
Self-worth—without it, happiness will always be just beyond your grasp. Self-worth is, of course, something that can be measured along a continuum. It isn’t like you either have it or you don’t. You can possess varying degrees and those degrees can themselves vary depending on the circumstances of your life.
Generally, the person who is happiest has a healthy amount of self-worth without an inflated view of their own self-importance. This is the fine line that must be walked between confidence and arrogance.
Herb Sennett writes about life and how to enjoy it more.