You're Not Perfect--it's Okay!
I've got bad news to tell you. The only constant in life is change. That's the only thing you can bank on. That's the only thing you can rely on and can safely come back to again and again. It was true in the past. It's true right now. It will continue to be through long into the future.
Change is the only constant in life and it's a good thing because, with change, we can improve. Change is actually a promise. It doesn't matter how small you feel, how defeated you think you are, and how incompetent, ugly, and desperate things may be to you. With change, you can turn things around. That's what's so awesome about change.
I once met a homeless man on the streets of San Francisco and Los Angeles and I was working for an insurance company and he said something that really blew my mind. It changed my life. He was a guy who just had newspapers as his bed.
Dangers of sabotage in Success
Certain people believe they don't deserve good things to happen to them? I know it sounds crazy. I mean who in their right minds would assume that they don't deserve the good things in life.
What kind of cancerous or toxic mental ideas are they suffering from for them to think this way? Believe it or not, this is not rare. Too many people sabotage themselves from achieving success because they believe they do not deserve success.
One common variation of this is thinking all your future success will be beyond your grasp since you screwed up royally in the past. It's just not going to happen. Forget about it. They believe in stigma.
They believe there are certain things you cannot do. If you do it in the past, you're sealed from any kind of success. You are a failure and you will continue to be a failure.
Now, they don't explicitly think about it in these terms but the effect is the same. They can't bring themselves to do something needed and to sacrifice something required for them to achieve great success in life.
Another variation of this is the Impostor Complex. This complex afflicts people who accomplished many things. They know how to write best-selling books. They know how to speak in front of large audiences. They know how to connect with people.
They know how to do the right things at the right time with the right people to produce the very best results. But deep down inside they feel they are impostors, frauds, fakes, hypocrites, or liars. They call this Impostor Complex, and it's real.
In fact, you only know less than Oprah Winfrey, herself who reported that she suffered from Impostor Complex. Deep down inside, it goes back to the same place. It goes to this burning idea of not deserving success.
Herb Sennett writes about life and how to enjoy it more.