There's really not much change in your life. Before you know it, you feel that you're stuck in your life. It's as if the script keeps playing over and over. It's the same boring old movie again and again. Same movie, different day and then, comes the conclusion. Death.
I know it sounds depressing. It's definitely discouraging but I want you to understand where that mindset leads to. It definitely doesn't lead to a happy place. If there was any doubt before, now you have the answer.
People who screw up in the past think that mistake seals them the rest of their life. Well, I've got good news for you. Your past mistakes don't have to define you.
Pay attention to your mental inventory because until and unless you believe you can change, nothing will happen in your life. This is a powerful form of this. This is the most important ingredient in the process of changing your results because you're trying to become more successful.
This is a simple matter of changing your results. Obviously, you're not happy with the results you're getting. You want to be more successful but don't automatically assume that you can change.
Embrace this possibility. Recognize its full features. Stare it in the eyes and let it in. Absorb it. Most people don't go through this. They automatically assume that they can change.
Maybe, it's monetary. Maybe, it's social which means loss of reputation. Whatever the case may be, failure means pain. They realize so they look at what they stand to gain. They do a calculated risk-benefit analysis and if the analysis comes out right, and the project is worth taking on, they still keep looking at the possibility of failure to motivate them.
These people know the difference between wanting to fail and getting ready for setbacks. Their mindset shifts to failing quickly. They want to know if this will not pan out.
Successful people think differently. They understand that failure can help them succeed. They were more motivated by gain than intimidated by fear. What does this mean? First, failure means pain. It is difficult since there's pain there. It can be physical pain which is fairly rare but possible but usually, it is a mental and emotional pain.
There's nothing more painful than thinking you've invested a tremendous amount of time, effort, emotional energy, focus, and willpower on something that didn't pan out.
There's also social pain because people knew you were working on something and then now you have nothing to show for it. You feel like a fool. It may not be pointing fingers at you but it doesn't make the pain go away because we want to impress people we love and respect.
Try to avoid meeting the very difficult people that can lead to great deals but it's murder time to deal with them. We would like to get the reward without going through the painful process. I understand that since that's part of human nature.
This is why we're afraid of failure because we know it guarantees nothing. We can put in the work, the time, the effort and make all the sacrifices and at the end of that process, there's nothing there.
You're left holding an empty bag but you're already failing right now if you're not shooting for your goals and dreams. You really are failing because every day you spend being paralyzed by failure is a day not spent working towards success.
Herb Sennett writes about life and how to enjoy it more.